Confused about the difference between polyamory, polygamy, swinging, and more? Check out the definitions below for clarity! Polyamory Literally, poly (many) + amor (love). The state or practice of maintaining multiple sexual and/or romantic relationships simultaneously, with the full knowledge and consent of all the people involved. Polyamory is not necessarily related directly to marriage or polygamy; […]Continue reading "What is Polyamory?"
What is polyamory? How do I get started? Read on for these questions and more! What is polyamory? Polyamory is the state or practice of maintaining multiple sexual and/or romantic relationships simultaneously, with the full knowledge and consent of all the people involved. It is not swinging, though both fall under the umbrella of consensual […]Continue reading "FAQ – Frequently Asked Questions"
Many people who begin the polyamory journey are already married. A common assumption is that the best thing to do would be to date the same person (especially if it is a male/female couple). The poly community has a lot to say about this configuration, but below is a comprehensive guide to navigating this style […]Continue reading "How to Date as a Couple"
Polyamory is becoming more and more mainstream, and more people are recognizing that they have the capacity to include more romantic and emotional relationships in their lives. What happens when your partner has not come to the same conclusion as you have? How do you convince them to try polyamory? The short answer is: you […]Continue reading "How Do I Convince My Partner?"
Find out what books are popular for learning about polyamory. I’ll tell you who should read them based on your situation. More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert Everyone! Covers the basics of polyamory and goes in depth on relationship styles, agreements, jealousy, and more. It’s the book […]Continue reading "Poly Reading List"
Ruby Bouie Johnson responds to recent coverage of polyamory in the national news. I’ve had several weeks to reflect on the recent coverage of polyamory in a few national media outlets, ranging from the very conservative to the center-left. Though the presentation and tone varied between them, they all managed to be grossly misinformed about […]Continue reading "Doin’ It and Doin’ It and Doin’ It Well"
Ask Aunty is a regular feature of Black & Poly where real people ask about their polyamorous relationships. Aunty is here for you, so ask away! Dear Aunty, How do I find a polyamorous woman to date? I have a wonderful wife and we just agreed to open up our relationship. She’s bisexual so I’d […]Continue reading "Ask Aunty: Seeking Bisexual Mate"
What exactly is relationship anarchy, and why is it so hard to define? Wikipedia states “Relationship Anarchy (abbreviated RA) is the practice of forming relationships that are not bound by rules aside from what the people involved mutually agree on.” The term is credited to Sweden native Andie Nordgren in 2006, and was used to describe a […]Continue reading "Relationship Anarchy and Common Misconceptions"
Ask Aunty is a regular feature of Black & Poly where real people ask about their polyamorous relationships. Aunty is here for you, so ask away! Dear Aunty, I’m trying to convince my husband to be poly. He doesn’t mind if I step out on him, but he doesn’t want to have an open relationship […]Continue reading "Ask Aunty: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell"
Wanting to explore an open relationship with your partner? We have many resources to help you navigate your poly journey, but first, ask yourself some questions. Are you in one of these three situations? (This article assumes you are married or otherwise coupled.) You’ve been married to your current partner and your relationship is stable […]Continue reading "Three Questions"
Although the title is meant to be witty and slightly humorous in the name of starting a conversation, the people I’m describing can be quite the opposite. You know them. Or maybe you ARE them. The forced OPP couple who have deemed it “Unicorn season”. The Hoteps who insist their “secondary” single girlfriends date only […]Continue reading "Mr. & Misogyny"
What is it? BDSM or Bondage Dominance Sadomasochism. Historically it is a coined phrase from the “fathers of sexual deviance,” as I like to call them, the Marquis de Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. For many people, BDSM is a lifestyle choice that they live 24/7 while others choose to be involved just in the […]Continue reading "BDSM 101"