What is Polyamory?
Confused about the difference between polyamory, polygamy, swinging, and more? Check out the definitions below for clarity! Polyamory Literally, poly (many) + amor (love). The state or…
Category: Love
Doin’ It and Doin’ It and Doin’ It Well
In 2017, Ruby Bouie Johnson responded to recent coverage of polyamory in the national news. I’ve had several weeks to reflect on the recent coverage…
Ask Aunty: Seeking Bisexual Mate
Dear Aunty, How do I find a polyamorous woman to date? I have a wonderful wife and we just agreed to open up our relationship.…
Relationship Anarchy and Common Misconceptions
What exactly is relationship anarchy, and why is it so hard to define? Wikipedia states “Relationship Anarchy (abbreviated RA) is the practice of forming relationships that are…
Ask Aunty: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell
Ask Aunty is a regular feature of Black & Poly where real people ask about their polyamorous relationships. Dear Aunty, I’m trying to convince my…
Three Questions
Wanting to explore an open relationship with your partner? We have many resources to help you navigate your poly journey, but first, ask yourself some…
Mr. & Misogyny
Although the title is meant to be witty and slightly humorous in the name of starting a conversation, the people I’m describing can be quite…
BDSM 101
What is it? BDSM or Bondage Dominance Sadomasochism. Historically it is a coined phrase from the “fathers of sexual deviance,” as I like to call…
A Little Sugar in My Bowl
Ruby Bouie Johnson gathers wisdom from sexologists and sex therapists. “I want a little sugar In my bowl I want a little sweetness Down in my…
The S Word
“You’re just a slut.” That’s the response I get when I describe my style of polyamory to people. I am not married and I don’t…